Throughout most of our lives, we come across many people. We find ourselves living through our life while passing by many and spending time with few. Time within life is very precious and though we try to spread it across many fields, there are points when we just don’t have enough time. There are many people that have given up things due to time constraints, it may be sad, but unfortunately, that is how things go.
When you look back at all the people that passed you by, you briefly wonder how they are doing, and depending on how they passed you by, maybe you wonder more. For those who have had friends that have left, on either good or bad notes, I’m sure you sit there and wonder what I may have been like if you were able to keep them for a while longer. Friendship is a fickle thing, very similar to relationships. It takes time to grow, it isn’t just instantly perfect, and some friendships take a lot more effort. The most annoying part of a friendship, not going into specifics, would be when you’re the only one working towards your friendship. Maybe you try very hard and you’re striving for that person, but they are just sitting on their butt hoping you move them.
Friendship is a two way street, if you ever feel like you’re doing all the work then maybe it isn’t worth it. Much like a relationship, it takes two people to make it work.
Recently, I’ve dealt with more friend issues than I care to admit. There’s a possibility they still stalk this website in hopes of some form of closure, or maybe they just can’t leave me alone. That aside, I will not hold my tongue for their case any longer.
For those who read my posts, I have but one thing to ask of you. Don’t be bitter. Being bitter is a waste of time and energy, your life is on a short amount of time, and being miserable is a waste. So a friend of yours made a mistake, if it was an honest mistake, well we’re human, and it happens. Think of it this way, did you talk to them? Words hold a lot of power, there is a good chance you’ve probably hurt them without knowing it. The friendships that broke for me very recently were a horrid case of bitterness. I was going to try to make it work, I had made a mistake, one that at the time, I believed I had no other choice. That person was unable to stop being bitter, was unable to just put the past aside and move on. Move on to what you say? A better life? A happier life? A chance at the friendship that they missed and longed for again.
Due to their bitterness, they gave up the chance at friendship, and due to how things worked out, they took another with them. That person was torn between friends, which is something I would never want to do to someone but in the end, they had to choose whom to hurt.
Time will continue to pass, and maybe they’ll hate me for saying this, but you know what. It’s a part of life. It’s over now, the decisions have been made to allow it to break too many times prior, and now it’s time to live life. While they are somewhere else, I do hope they don’t waste any more of their time being bitter. There’s no point and it’s a waste of your life. I’ll continue to write, I’ll continue to be, and I’ll be happy. Why? Because life is, short and I don’t want to spend a moment being miserable.
Therefore, for all my past friends that chose to leave me either recently or forever ago try not to be miserable, you only get one chance at life.