Gong through life, your forced to make decisions. Unfortunately there isn’t always a right or better decision. Sometimes all decisions you can make are wrong. Sometimes it’s a matter of picking the “best” wrong decision. During those situations, the outcome won’t be good and normally regret sinks in. As you continued to go through life, you’ll find yourself thinking back. For some people this is a desperate attempt to see if there is something else they couldn’t have done. For others, it’s acceptance. Accepting that the situations that led to that weren’t entirely your fault. I say this for one reason.
Friendship is a type of relationship. In order to be friends both have to accept that. Any fights that happen, are on both person’s shoulders. The saying goes it takes two to tango, same idea here as well. An argument doesn’t happen if you’re yelling a wall, it happens when there are at least two people involved. Sure someone may start it, but what does it matter? The moment you jump into the argument you’ve now added fuel and the outcome that is approaching is now due to both of your decisions. If a friend tries to leave or randomly leaves, as a friend, you should chase enough to at least find out why. When this realization hit, you realize it isn’t all your fault. You can’t blame only yourself and fall into depression.
Things happen, you can’t keep everyone. Not everything goes perfectly. This is how you grow. This is how you learn. People aren’t always nice, people are sometimes selfish. Sometimes, you’re just a stepping stone or a pawn to better someone else’s life. Sometimes you may even be manipulated.
Don’t hate yourself because you fell for it. Hate yourself IF you keep falling for it. Being tricked once happens, it’s a learning process. Being tricked repeatedly is your fault because you didn’t learn. Learning is how you become a better you.