Lately I’ve been thinking about how people perceive things. As most of you already know, I’m in my mid twenties. Due to this, I find a good amount of people that expect me to be at a certain part in my life. It’s a bit annoying for someone to be like “well why don’t you have kids?” or the even more popular one of “why don’t you have a real job?”. One, who are you to tell me what is and isn’t a job? Does it provide me with income? yes. Does it take up an obscene amount of my time? yes. Do I have taxes taken out of it? Yes. Sounds like a job to me? As for the kids thing, not to be rude, but, I thought you should only have kids if you’re either financially stable or ready for them. I am not either, thus I have no kids.
I don’t like the idea of social stigmas. People can choose to have kids when they want to, or even not at all. No one should be “shamed” upon for not having a kid. If anything I don’t want to bring a kid into a house where I have no time to spend with he/she, or any money to buy them toys/movies/clothes ect. Call it what you will but I’m the one being intelligent.
The idea of a “real” job is silly. If it pays you and you pay taxes, it’s a real job. Period. Most of the people that job shame don’t even have those “real” jobs that they’re referring to. They seem to think of cushy business jobs in a skyscraper that does paperwork all day as a “real” job, yet they’re working retail.
Just a small rant due to the amount of time I’ve been getting “well why don’t you have a kid yet?”. Well I’m not ready for one, I’m not living with my bf, I don’t know if he’s ready for one, maybe I don’t want one right now? The reasons can be endless, but a TLDR, don’t tell people how to live their life.